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11Dec

Prince Andrew accuser says ‘evil people’ want her silenced – National

by BBG Hub

The woman who says she was forced to have sex with Prince Andrew multiple times has posted cryptic tweets about her well-being.

Virginia Roberts Giuffre, who recently sat down with the BBC and asked the British public to support her quest for justice, tweeted on Tuesday that “too many evil people want to see me quieted.”

“I am making it publicly known that in no way, shape or form am I suicidal. I have made this known to my therapist and GP — if something happens to me — in the sake of my family do not let this go away and help me to protect them.”

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Giuffre made the worrisome remarks in response to a tweet about British socialite Ghislaine Maxwell — the woman she says recruited her to perform sex acts alongside convicted sex offender Jeffrey Epstein when she was just 15 years old.

On Tuesday, Giuffre tweeted that “ridiculous” laws have allowed Maxwell to remain a free woman, and not be charged for her alleged crimes.

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A Twitter user replied to that tweet saying: “F.B.I. will kill her to protect the ultra rich and well connected…”



Maxwell once dated Epstein, and has since been accused of playing a key role in recruiting and grooming underage girls for Epstein’s alleged child-sex-trafficking ring. She is friends with Prince Andrew, and was connected to many powerful figures including politicians, lawyers and businessmen.

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Epstein died by suicide in August while in custody awaiting trial on sex-trafficking charges, and Maxwell’s whereabouts are not publicly known.

Maxwell has previously denied the allegations made against her.

READ MORE: Prince Andrew accuser pleads for public support 

Giuffre claims she was introduced to Prince Andrew in 2001 through Epstein and Maxwell.

She alleges she danced with the royal at a nightclub in London, and was then forced to have sex with him at Maxwell’s house when she was 17.

“He is the most hideous dancer I’ve ever seen in my life. His sweat was like it was raining, basically everywhere,” Giuffre said in her recent BBC interview.

She also says she had sexual encounters with Prince Andrew in New York and in the U.S. Virgin Islands.






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Prince Andrew ‘knows exactly what he’s done’: Alleged Epstein victim

In his own interview with the BBC, the 59-year-old royal denied ever having sex with Giuffre, and said he had “no recollection” of ever meeting her.

Prince Andrew claimed an alleged encounter with Giuffre in London couldn’t have occurred on the date reported because he had taken his daughter Princess Beatrice to a party at a Pizza Express restaurant in the London suburb of Woking that day.

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Andrew also disputed the details of Giuffre’s account, including her statement that he sweated heavily when they danced at the London nightclub.

He said that was factually impossible because he had a medical condition at the time that meant he didn’t sweat. The prince said the condition stemmed from an “overdose of adrenaline” during his time as a helicopter pilot during the 1982 Falklands War.

— With files from the Associated Press

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20Nov

Cuffing season: Why are people more inclined to date during the winter? – National

by BBG Hub

As it gets colder and the holidays approach, singles enter “cuffing season.”

“Cuffing season” refers to single folks who “cuff” or become coupled up during the winter months. This seasonal trend typically begins in the fall and extends into the new year.

While the term was first defined by Urban Dictionary and largely gained traction on social media, it has become recognized widely enough to spark essays, playlists, and endless memes.

(‘Cuffing season’ was also short-listed for Collins Dictionary’s word of the year in 2017.)

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But is there evidence to support cuffing season, or is it something created by the dating industry? According to relationship experts, people may be more likely to settle down in the cold.

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“The desire to commit to a partner during the cooler months is reflected in online dating data,” said Jessica O’Reilly, a Toronto-based relationship expert and host of the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast.

O’Reilly points to Facebook data that showed more people were partnered up on the days around Valentine’s Day and Christmas.

She also highlights previous U.S. research that found an increase in keyword searches related to sex and “mating behaviours” in the winter months.






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How to thrive in a long-distance relationship

It’s important to note, however, that researchers found an uptick in dating searches during the summer, too.

Justin Lehmiller, a sex researcher and fellow at the Kinsey Institute, says this is likely because both the winter holidays and summer months bring more travel and vacations.



“Being in that vacation state of mind where people are more relaxed and have a chance to get away from work for a little bit, I think that opens up the door to the possibility of exploring relationships more,” he said.

Cold weather may affect mood

Lehmiller says there are factors, however, that are unique to cuffing season.

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The author of Tell Me What You Want says some research suggests testosterone levels may increase in cooler months, which can affect sexual desire.

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“There’s also research looking at how sunlight exposure affects production of serotonin in the brain — and that chemical is important for regulating mood,” Lehmiller explained.

Lehmiller said because there’s less sunlight exposure in dark, winter months, people may experience lower moods.

“Some people may try to compensate for that by going out and seeking social connections and relationships to boost their mood.”

The holidays can be emotional

Between watching endless romantic holiday movies and wanting to share a New Year’s kiss, the holidays can make people feel lonely if they’re single. There’s also the social pressures the season brings.






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“Folks want someone to take to the company party or family gatherings,” O’Reilly said.

Lehmiller echoes this and says some people don’t like showing up single to these types of events — “especially when there’s family who may be putting pressure on us to get married and settle down,” he added.

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What’s important to keep in mind, however, is that you should be up front and honest with a partner if you see the relationship being temporary.

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O’Reilly says if you’re inclined to “cuff” yourself to someone every winter, ask yourself why.

If you aren’t really into a relationship but are dating anyway, it may be best to focus on self-love this season, she said.

“Do you need to change your attitude toward winter and appreciate the beauty of the snow instead of complaining about the cold? Do you want to do something to increase your energy levels and mood by working out, dancing, meditating, painting or writing?” she said.

“See if you can shift your perspective just a tiny bit to appreciate the weather.”

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16Nov

When people lose their hair to cancer, they lose their ‘security blanket’ – National

by BBG Hub

Confined to a hospital room, 15-year-old Vinesha Ramasamy’s body was responding to her first round of chemotherapy.

The Ontario teen had recently been diagnosed with bone cancer and the treatment had made her so sick that she hadn’t left her reclining bed in nearly a month. Her hair, once thick and curly, had thinned and knotted.

Nurses gently combed through Ramasamy’s dark hair, trying to salvage what they could. They spent hours taking out the tangles, and eventually told her and her mom the best thing to do was to shave it down.

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“When I saw myself in the mirror, that’s when I started to see, ‘Oh, I’m actually sick,’” Ramasamy said.

“My dad had come to the hospital that evening, and when he saw me, I saw on his face it hit him, too.”

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Dealing with hair loss

Between endless doctor’s appointments and chemotherapy or radiation, dealing with cancer can be an incredibly overwhelming experience both physically and emotionally.

Hair loss adds a layer to an already tough situation for patients, says Dr. Norma D’Agostino, a psychologist at Toronto’s Princess Margaret Cancer Centre.

“When their hair actually starts to fall out, it makes the reality of the situation sink in for people on a personal level. There tends to be like that moment of, ‘Oh my God, I’m a cancer patient,’” D’Agostino said.

Vinesha Ramasamy.

Vinesha Ramasamy.


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“It also identifies them out into the world as a sick person rather than a healthy person, which makes them feel like their identity is now changing in the public and social realm.”

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The Canadian Cancer Society points out that this experience can be distressing for patients. Not only are there emotional effects, patients also need to think about protecting their scalps from the elements, including the sun.

Chemotherapy drugs damage hair follicles, making hair fall out, explains the American Cancer society. This varies from person to person, but within a few weeks of starting chemo, a patient may lose some or all of their hair.

Vinesha and her family.

Vinesha and her family.


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Hair loss can be gradual or sudden. It may start falling out in clumps, or become loose when brushing. Chemo can also cause hair loss on other parts of the body, including eyebrows and eyelashes.

Hair typically starts to grow back before chemotherapy treatment ends, or very soon afterwards, the Canadian Cancer Society adds.

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For Ramasamy, losing her hair signalled to the outside world that she was sick. Culturally, she said this was challenging because her family was used to being private.

Going from having long hair to suddenly wearing scarves over her scalp was hard.








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This is how to talk to kids about your cancer diagnosis: expert

“For a long time, my parents didn’t tell anyone besides our very close aunts, uncles and immediate family that it was cancer because people talk about it rather than talk to you,” she said.

“It took a long time for even me to be able to share my story comfortably.”

Support for hair loss

Danielle Lozia, the owner of Unionville, Ont.-based Hair Care by Danielle, helps people living with cancer find wigs.

Lozia, who worked as a hairdresser for 20 years, says hair loss is an emotional time for many. People often feel overwhelmed by their diagnosis and don’t know where to start when it comes to their hair.

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Lozia says she walks patients through the process of finding a wig or hair topper based on the amount of hair they’ve lost and the type of treatment they’re undergoing.

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Hairpieces can help boost patients’ self-esteem, she says, which is something that often takes a hit during chemo. Hair loss can make people feel self-conscious and unattractive.

“Our hair means so much to us. When our hair is done, it makes us feel really confident and secure,” Lozia said.

“Patients can’t identify with themselves when they look in the mirror when they’ve lost a part of their [identity].

“I try to bring a part of themselves back during this whole process [and say], ‘You’re not losing who you are.’”

For teen cancer patients, D’Agostino says hair loss can be traumatic. During this developmental time, teens are coming to terms with their bodies and identities. Losing your hair can negatively affect self-perception.






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Wigs can help ease this transition, D’Agostino says, but everybody’s comfort level is different.

“For some people, that’s their security blanket and helps them feel most comfortable,” she said. “But there are other people who absolutely hate wigs because they’re uncomfortable and itchy and too hot.”

On top of wigs, the Canadian Cancer Society suggests that for people who are sensitive about their hair loss, a scarf or hat can be a form of protection. The society also urges patients to check with their provincial and private health insurance to see if wig or toupee purchases are covered.

Ramasamy’s parents didn’t have private benefits that covered wigs, so her only option was a free one provided by a service.

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Vinesha and her mother.

Vinesha and her mother.


Courtesy of Vinesha Ramasamy

“There wasn’t many ones that suited my colouring or my hair colour, so we just had to pick one that had black hair,” she said. “It was long, straight hair and it didn’t really look like me at all.”

After wearing the wig several times, Ramasamy decided she felt most comfortable wearing a scarf instead. The wig felt hot and itchy, and also didn’t resemble her natural hair.

Growing back hair

Two years after Ramasamy’s cancer diagnosis, the then-17-year-old was staring at her head in her long bathroom mirror on a chilly Sunday night.

Standing in front of the sink, she closely examined her scalp, inspecting the way it looked from different angles.






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5 ways cancer can impact mental health

She had recently finished chemotherapy, and her hair was slowly growing in. It was short and frizzy, unlike her natural thick and curly locks, but it was something.

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At school, Ramasamy had been covering her head with bandanas, folded and tied securely in place. But time had passed, her mom said, and her hair was long enough now. She didn’t need them anymore.

On Monday morning, the teen came to school early. She sat at her desk, head down in her books, making no eye contact with the students fluttering in.

A high-energy girl sat at the desk next to her and began chatting. She looked at Ramasamy and made a remark that would change her life.

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“She was like, ‘Wow, you look so cool! You look like G.I. Jane,’” Ramasamy recalled.

“I didn’t really know what to say in that moment, but for the first time in a couple of years, I didn’t feel like a boy but like a strong female, which is so different than my culture and any of my thought processes up to then.”

Without missing a beat, the girl continued chatting with Ramasamy about her weekend and math homework.

“I remember going home and I googled ‘G.I. Jane’ and looked at all these pictures,” she said.

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“And then I went and looked in the mirror and I was like, ‘Wow, someone sees that in me? That’s so cool.’”

Ramasamy now works in finance and volunteers with various organizations including Canadian Blood Services, Childhood Cancer Survivor Canada and the Terry Fox Foundation as a mentor and speaker.

She lives outside Toronto.

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26Oct

The psychology behind why some people are always late – National

by BBG Hub

Picture this scenario: You’re out to meet a friend for dinner, but they let you know they’re running 10 to 15 minutes late.



Sometimes, it’s a write-off; things can happen. But if you know someone who is chronically late, it can quickly start having an impact on your relationship with them.

Rana Khan, a registered psychotherapist based in Toronto, says there are plenty of reasons why people fall into this habit. He says people often blame laziness or a lack of motivation when it comes to being late, but Khan says this often isn’t the problem.

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“In fact, laziness and not being motivated is a response to the real culprit, which is avoidance,” he tells Global News. “Avoidance stems from fear. Fear is a powerful emotion and it is an emotion that is familiar to many of us.”

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When it impacts your relationships

Khan says if someone in your life is always late, communication is key.

“You could say, ‘I have been noticing that you’re often late, is there anything that I can do to help?’” he said. “Perhaps something is going on in their life which adds context to why they are always late.”

This person could be providing care for their family, struggling with their mental or physical health, or they have very little control over their own life and what happens.

“I think back to my own childhood and recognize how in my South Asian household it would take forever for me to leave the house because I would have to say bye to my grandparents, my parents — I would have to tell all of them where I was going, when I would be back, who I was going with … All such things were out of my control.”

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Once you get to the root of why someone is always late (or what they could be avoiding or fearing), it will change the tone of the conversation.

“Your likelihood of doing any harm and being met with defensiveness decreases when you approach someone with care and compassion.”

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Susan Krauss Whitbourne, a professor emerita of psychological and brain sciences at the University of Massachusetts Amherst, tells Global News that when you don’t realize what being late can do to a relationship, it can hurt you both down the road.

“Even if your partner is understanding, the other people who expect you to be there on time will become irritated if not downright angry,” she said. “If you’re on the receiving end, you need to find a way to communicate to your partner how the lateness is causing problems.”

She recommends working with your partner to help him or her through some of those tips — yelling at them will not work.






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How being late can be good for your health

Radhika Kowtha-Rao still remembers how she was treated when she was once late to pick up her child.

Her daughter was in a Girl Scouts program and right before she was going to leave to pick her up, Kowtha-Rao noticed her dog was missing from their home.

“It was November and dark, so I switched on lights and stepped out only to realize in panic that someone left the gate open and the [dog] took off,” she said. “I found him eventually, put him in and ran. I was late by 10 minutes.”

When she drove up, her daughter, her friend and her friend’s mother were still waiting outside. She apologized and explained to the mother why she was late.

“She walked up to my window and glared at me and hissed, ‘You are late and I do not appreciate that. This is very rude of you Radhika,’” she recalled. “I was hurt and sad, and to this day, though we exchange pleasantries at common places, she continues to be cold to me.”

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Can it be cultural?

There are some phrases like “Indian Time” or “Island Time” — ultimately, the idea that people from certain cultural backgrounds are more likely to be late.

In Kowtha-Rao’s experience as an Indian woman, it is not uncommon for people to be late.

“No one is expected to be on time. No one shows up on time,” she explained. “No one cares as much and it’s all one big loose structure.”

Of course, this is not to imply all South Asians are always late all the time or don’t get annoyed at others being late, but Krauss Whitbourne added that our own culture or upbringing can affect how we behave around time.

If you are used to being late to family gatherings or events, for example, and it is not looked down upon, it may be hard to understand why being late for a non-family gathering is a big deal.

“The problem arises when your own cultural, or sub-cultural, background doesn’t mesh with the norms of your workplace or even relationships,” she said.

How to break your late habit

Khan says being late all the time becomes a habit when you know there are no consequences for lateness.

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“If … you catch yourself feeling like you can get away with being late, you may be on track to formulating a habit,” he said.

To tackle this habit — if it is more than just being lazy — he says it is important to understand your fears.

“Often, what fear needs is more information, it needs clarity, and it needs some sort of control.”

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Identify why you’re always late, ask yourself how you can control the situation and monitor and evaluate how late you are when you have to meet others.

Krauss Whitbourne agrees, adding it is important to notice a pattern, but also to reward yourself when you are on time.

“Tell yourself the real time or date is earlier than what’s required and set reminders on your phone with plenty of advance notice,” she said.

Schedule realistic timelines for completion, whether it’s getting ready in the morning or finishing a big project, she added.

“Check actual drive times for getting to places a day ahead of an event to take rush hour into account when planning your route.”

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16Sep

4 mistakes people make on their resumé and how to avoid them – National

by BBG Hub

The first step to getting your dream job is crafting a killer resumé — one that’s clear, concise and demonstrates why you’re the best candidate.

But in an increasingly competitive job market, it’s tougher than ever to create a resumé that will make you stand out among hundreds of other applicants.

Career experts Maureen McCann of Promotion Career Solutions and Susan Murray, chief research officer at the Business Excellence Institute, have seen thousands of resumés between them.

Here, they explain the most common mistakes prospective employees make on their resumés and how to avoid them.

Esthetics matter

It might seem frivolous, but the way your resumé physically looks can say a lot about you as a candidate.

Your resumé should be organized, easy to read and easy to digest. For example, a disorganized resumé could inadvertently suggest that you’re a disorganized employee.

“You’re always demonstrating who you are… Make it really easy for them to pick you,” said McCann.

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“I would say the most common mistake is that people use the template from Microsoft Word ’97, which is more than 20 years old now. That’s not to say you can’t use a template and then make changes to it, but from a visual perspective… you want to stand out in what is a very competitive job market.”

Murray prioritizes clean lines and easily identifiable figures.

“Have the numbers [to explain] what your current role is” and the difference you’ve made at your current company, said Murray.

Start with the most relevant information

Before you put together a resumé, thoroughly research the company you’re applying for.

“You’ve got to know them better than any of your competition,” said McCann. “Then, incorporate what you’ve learned into your reasoning.”

When you’re compiling your relevant skills and experience, do it strategically to avoid “a laundry list of things.”

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“Say: ‘This is what I’ve done, and this is where it added value to the company,’” McCann said. “Put the headline at the front, otherwise you’re burying the lede.”

Typically, McCann recommends starting with a brief profile at the beginning, using relevant keywords and career highlights to draw the reader in.

“Grab their attention as quickly as possible, because they’re likely scanning through your resumé very quickly — they’ve got a lot of resumés to go through — so you want to make it really easy.”

Ditch flowery language and long paragraphs

Once you’ve determined your relevant skills and experience, convey them in a way that is straight to the point.

“Keep it in three to five bullets related to each role,” said Murray. “What does your LinkedIn say? What does your Twitter say? If you’re able to do it in a Twitter post, why can’t you do the same with a resumé?”

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She goes as far to say you can skip the objective.

“You’re already applying to the job so they know what your objective is,” Murray said.

This will vary from job to job, but for the most part, keeping it concise is key.

“There are certain cases where you do have to write paragraphs, like for a curriculum vitae, which is different than a resumé, but… for most jobs, bullet points will suffice,” said McCann.

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This also means removing the “hobbies” subtitle from your resumé.

“I think a resumé should professionally capture who and what you are right now,” said Murray.

Keep multiple resumés on hand and optimize them all for applicant tracking systems

Murray also recommends having multiple resumés in your rotation, depending on the kind of job to which you’re applying.

“If I’m applying for a research project, I have my more academic resumé versus my financial consulting job, [the resumé for which] is way more concise.”

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More than 90 per cent of large companies use applicant tracking systems (ATS), which are algorithmic systems that analyze resumés to bring those of the most qualified applicants to the surface.

Unfortunately, if your resumé hasn’t been optimized for your specific role, it could fall through the cracks — even if you’re more than qualified for the position.

McCann recommends tools like Jobscan, which performs a cross-examination of your resumé and the job description to ensure your resumé is optimized to appear should the employer use an ATS.

Hire a professional

If all of this advice is overwhelming or you’re worried about landing the interview, you can always hire a professional to guide you through the process.

McCann recommends Career Professionals of Canada, a directory that you can use to source a resumé writer or career professional.

 

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24Aug

Why some people are afraid of the dentist – National

by BBG Hub

Very few people enjoy going to the dentist, but for some, the sound of a dental drill is enough to send shivers down their spine.

Anywhere from 48 per cent to nearly 60 per cent of the population experiences a form dental anxiety or extreme dental fear, according to studies.

While incredibly common, there are different types of dental dread that range in severity. Dental fear is most often a specific fear, like a fear of drills or needles, explains Lisa J. Heaton, an assistant professor of oral health sciences at the University of Washington.

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“Somebody might sit down in the dental chair and feel pretty OK, but when they see the needle on the tray in front of them… they become very fearful and their heart starts to race,” Heaton told Global News.

Dental anxiety, on the other hand, is general unease about going to the dentist. For these people, even thinking about the dentist can make them anxious, and they may put off scheduling appointments.

Dental phobia is an extreme fear of visiting the dentist, and it affects around five to 10 per cent of U.S. adults, Heaton said.

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“They will avoid dental care even when they really need it,” Heaton said. “[It’s a] fear that is so extreme and severe that it gets in the way of people living their lives.”

Why people are afraid of the dentist

Most people are afraid of pain, and the dentist can represent unpleasant experiences in a vulnerable part of our body: our mouth.

Heaton says that people feel anxious about the idea of drilling or needles, and anything that could cause them discomfort. Sitting in a chair and having someone work on their teeth can also feel like a loss of control.

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“A lot of patients are concerned about giving up that control and not being able to stop the procedure when they want to,” she said.

There are also factors that go beyond discomfort.

According to a 2014 study out of the U.K., common reasons why people have dental fear include their own traumatic experiences, as well as vicarious learning through the experiences that significant others, like their parents, have faced. Other reasons include portrayal in the media, as well as biological factors and personality traits.

Other research suggests that dental fear may be an aspect of other phobias or anxiety disorders, including social phobia, obsessive compulsive disorder (and a fear of germs), or panic disorder.

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Research shows that fearing the dentist often begins in childhood. Heaton says that around 75 to 80 per cent of people with a fear of the dentist say they’ve felt that way for most of their lives.

“It’s very likely that something may have happened in childhood that has set them up to think that dentistry is scary,” she said.

When dental fear affects your health

Dental fear or phobia can have detrimental effects on oral health. Research shows that people who fear the dentist may be more inclined to avoid dental care, ultimately affecting their gums and teeth — which can become a vicious cycle.

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For people with moderate to high dental fear, one Australian study found that nearly 40 per cent avoided going to the dentist for treatments. In comparison, for people with no dental fear, only less than one per cent avoided appointments.

Heaton says this “cycle of avoidance” only reinforces the idea that the dentist is a scary and harmful place.

“Somebody will have a negative dental experience and so they’ll say, ‘I’m never going back to the dentist.’ And then as they avoid the dentist, they start having more problems; they’ll more have more infection or they’ll have teeth that break,” she explained.

“They’ll avoid until they have one of these dental emergencies… and by the time that happens, it requires a much more invasive and involved treatment, which then reinforces the idea that every time you go to the dentist it’s invasive and terrible.”

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Going to the dentist and having routine check-ups is important for oral health and for overall well-being. Heaton says tooth problems not only affect what you can and cannot eat, but can have social and professional repercussions.

“[People] might not date and they might not go for jobs they would like to interview for because they are embarrassed about the state of their teeth,” she said.

How to overcome dental fear

If your dental fear is so extreme it’s affecting your health, it’s best to get professional help.

Cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) can be an effective tool in overcoming dental fear, Heaton said. One British study found the therapy to be “an effective technique for helping dentally anxious patients receive treatment without sedation.”

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Heaton also recommends mindfulness exercises, like deep breathing.

It’s also important that dentists learn how to work with anxious patients, and create environments that feel safe. This can help people build positive experiences, and in turn, reduce the likelihood of dental phobia.

Lastly, finding a dentist you feel comfortable with is incredibly important. Heaton suggests making an appointment with a new dentist to just speak with them before sitting in the chair. That way, the first time you’re meeting them isn’t when you’re going in for a procedure.

When you’re at the dentist, let them know you have anxiety. This will help them be mindful of your fears. You can even develop a hand signal with them to be used if you need them to stop.

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“Dental fear — and especially dental phobia — is not one of those things that goes away overnight, but it’s something that’s built on a trusting relationship with the dentist,” Heaton said.

“Sometimes it takes a few attempts to find a dentist that you really click with, but I encourage people to talk to as many dentists as they need until they find one they really feel comfortable with.”

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8Jul

More people are giving CBD oil to their pets, but experts aren’t sure it’s safe – National

by BBG Hub

CBD oil, or cannabidiol, has become a popular cannabis product since legalization in October.

It lacks the psychoactive characteristics of tetrahydrocannabinol (THC) — meaning it won’t get you high — and it can help with myriad health issues, including inflammation, arthritis and joint pain.

Now, some users want to see if the oil can offer similar benefits to their pets.

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According to Dr. Scott Bainbridge, co-owner of Dundas West Animal Hospital in Toronto, there is little research on the topic — but what studies have been done suggest that CBD can have some positive effects for animals.

“I think it’s fair to say that… what works in medicine is usually applicable to animal medicine,” Bainbridge told Global News. “But we are talking about a different species… and the amount of receptors for CBD that a human has may vary from a dog or a cat.”

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‘We do need to do more research’

Hardly anything is known about how cannabis interacts with an animal’s brain. For this reason, Canadian veterinarians aren’t included in the Cannabis Act as practitioners who can prescribe cannabis products. In fact, there aren’t even any legal CBD products on the market for animals.

In Bainbridge’s view, a lot more research needs to happen before it can be safely incorporated into treatment plans.

“I can see potential for [treating] things like anxiety, arthritis or chronic pain… but we do need to do more research in the area,” he said.

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Two major studies have researched the effects of CBD on dogs.

A recent study out of Cornell University tested the treatment of arthritis in dogs with CBD, and found a significant decrease in pain, an increase in activity and no observable side effects.

Likewise, a study at Colorado State University from June assessed the efficacy of CBD when treating epilepsy in dogs. Results were similar: 89 per cent of dogs who received CBD had a reduction in the frequency of seizures.

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However, just 16 dogs participated in the clinical trial at Colorado State — a sample size which isn’t large enough to provide reliable evidence for the benefits of CBD on dogs with epilepsy.

“It’s kind of a dangerous gray area,” said Sam Hocker, assistant professor of medical oncology at the Ontario Veterinary College.

“We have a lot of people using it and very little evidence to tell us how it works in these different settings and what effect it has on the body.”

The Canadian Veterinary Medical Association’s stance

Currently, the Canadian Veterinary Medical Association (CVMA) doesn’t endorse the administration of cannabis — neither CBD or THC — to pets.

According to Dr. Enid Stiles, the vice president of the CVMA, this is due to the limited scope of research. However, more studies are underway now that marijuana is legal in Canada.

“We’ve been working judiciously in the past couple of years — ever since we knew legalization was coming — to determine what ways we might be able to help veterinarians,” Stiles told Global News.

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“Health Canada is in the midst of doing research… but I think it’ll be a few more years before [veterinarians] are actually able to prescribe.”

In the meantime, Stiles is worried that the policy for cannabis and pets varies from province to province.

For example, the Ontario Veterinarian Medical Association (OVMA) has forbidden its members from even discussing the use of cannabis with patients.

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“We can’t legally discuss it… we’re not allowed to make recommendations,” said Hocker. “What I tell patients when they bring it up is that we just don’t have a lot of evidence at this point to tell us its impacts or ill effects.”

This concerns Stiles because she believes pet owners will continue to give their pets CBD regardless of the law — and she thinks it would be safer if they could at least consult a veterinarian before doing so.

“As a practitioner, I would much rather have a conversation than a pet going home and somebody giving him or her a product that could be harmful,” she said.

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But I think that time is going to change that… It wouldn’t surprise me if the regulatory bodies were going to be changing [their stances] pretty shortly. Not being part of that conversation… there’s far more risk with that.”

In January 2018, the CVMA provided feedback to Health Canada on proposed changes under the Cannabis Act.

In it, the group argued that veterinarians should be included under the definition of “medical practitioner,’ which would grant them access to prescribe cannabis to their patients. The group also wrote that human cannabis products should have labelling that includes messages to protect the safety of animals.

If you still want to try giving your pet cannabis

Bainbridge’s first recommendation is to consult your veterinarian before administering anything. If you live in a jurisdiction where veterinarians aren’t allowed to offer advice about cannabis, proceed with extreme caution.

“You want to make sure you’re not dosing it too heavily,” said Bainbridge.

Consuming too much cannabis can cause excess sleepiness, depression, wobbling, pacing and agitation, as well as salivation and vomiting, among other symptoms.

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However, these symptoms are caused more often by the consumption of THC rather than by CBD. Ensure that you haven’t left THC products in a place where your pet could reach and potentially consume it.

Should your pet need a new medication or surgery, be completely honest with your veterinarian about what you’ve given him or her. “There can be interactions between CBD and other drugs,” said Bainbridge.

Bainbridge, Hocker and Stiles all emphasize the need for harm reduction, at least until more is known about how cannabis interacts with animals.

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“Probably one of the biggest concerns about CBD is that it comes from hemp… which is a weed,” Bainbridge said.

“You have to be really careful where it’s been planted because it sucks all the toxins out of the soil.”

Bainbridge is actually more worried about your dog consuming other toxins found in soil — like heavy metals — than he is about the CBD.

“There’s not a lot of regulation right now… At this point, I’m not comfortable recommending a product.”

— With files from Caley Bedore, Robyn Crawford and Simon Little

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5Jul

The people who make money tracking Kate Middleton, Meghan Markle’s wardrobe

by BBG Hub

From Meghan the Duchess of Sussex’s recent maternity clothing to Kate the Duchess of Cambridge’s love of L.K. Bennett wedges, the women continue to be trendsetters when it comes to their fashion choices. So much so that bloggers have made careers out of tracking who and what they wear.

Susan E. Kelley founded the website What Kate Wore in 2011, when Britain’s Prince William got engaged to marry Kate Middleton.

“I had another blog, and anytime I wrote about Kate, there was this huge boost in readership. And so I talked about it with my husband. I said, ‘You know, do you think people would really be interested in reading about what Kate Middleton wears?’”

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The site really took off when the royal couple took a tour of Canada and the United States a few months after their wedding.

“She’s changing outfits multiple times a day, and people loved it. There was this enormous interest in it, and it exploded on Twitter and on Facebook and it kind of rolled on from there,” Kelley said during an interview at her home in Okemos, Michigan, near Lansing.

Christine Ross of Lovettsville, Virginia, is co-editor of a website that follows the Duchess of Sussex’s style, called Meghan’s Mirror. The site actually launched before Meghan started dating Prince Harry, because Ross’ co-editor, Amanda Dishaw of Toronto, was a fan of Markle’s TV series Suits.

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Once Harry and Meghan were spotted together in public, the actress’ profile went up. And so did visits to their site.

“When Meghan was seen at the Invictus Games with Prince Harry in Toronto, it just exploded, and all of a sudden it was like, ‘OK, this is serious. This is real. This is happening,’” said Ross.

“People were so interested in what she wore and the charities that she worked with and the messages that she was sending, and the site just really took off from there.”

So, how exactly do these bloggers figure out who the duchesses are wearing?

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Kelley says for official engagements, the Palace provides a minimal amount of information about the clothing worn.

“Kensington Palace will tell reporters at the scene the primary designer she’s wearing,” said Kelley, adding that the Palace doesn’t reveal who made Kate’s accessories.

But it also comes down to a study in repetition.

“Kate has designers that she goes to again and again,” Kelley said.

For Meghan’s Mirror, Ross says she and her team have studied fashion and will examine the Duchess of Sussex’s wardrobe down to the tiniest of details to get it right.

“Every time there’s a new picture of Meghan, whether it’s a paparazzi photo or an official event, there’s a mad rush to our computers, and we really just start Googling,” she said. “It comes down to a really unique knowledge of the brands that she loves. Meghan tends to stick to the same designers over and over again, and we sit down and analyze things like stitching or buttons. … We’ve become very good at (it) as we’ve learned more about her style.”

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Ross says Meghan’s Mirror considers itself an ultimate resource for fashion info on Meghan, including an archive of anything she’s worn in public.

“We’ve worked really hard to curate our archives where you can find exactly what she’s worn and all the details about it, and you can also get mirror Meg styles at a fraction of the cost. So every time she steps out, we really work hard to add everything she’s wearing, from the earrings to the shoes to the jacket, all on to our archive so our readers can go on there, click and shop those styles.”

They also sell Meghan’s Mirror-inspired items, including jewelry on Etsy.com.

What Kate Wore also links to clothing Kelley calls “repliKates,” shoppable items similar to something the Duchess of Cambridge has worn.

Tracking the duchesses can be time consuming, especially with the time difference from the U.S. and London. “There are a lot of very early mornings for me,” Kelley said. “But the real crunch comes when they go on tour, because multiple tours have been in time zones that were 12, 14, 16-hour time differences. I just know I’m not going to see my husband. We’ll pass each other in the hallway.”

All in all, it’s still fun work.

“We have readers in places where I never thought people would be interested,” Kelley said. “There’s like 200 countries who have read the blog.”

She’s also launched sister sites What Meghan Wore and What Kate’s Kids Wore .

— Rancilio reported from New York. Rudy Estrada in Washington, D.C., contributed.




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26Jun

Acceptance rates of LGBTQ2 people declining among U.S. millennials: survey – National

by BBG Hub

A recent survey found young people in the United States are feeling less comfortable around LGBTQ2 people than they were last year.

According to researchers at the Harris Poll, who conducted the survey on behalf of GLAAD (Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation), this is the second year acceptance rates have dropped among people aged 18 to 34.

Now in its fifth iteration, the Accelerating Acceptance Index asked 1,970 adults a series of questions about LGBTQ2 people and measured their reactions.

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One example was, “How would you feel if you learned a family member is LGBTQ2?” Other questions were about how you would feel if your child was assigned to an LGBTQ2 teacher, or if you learned your doctor was LGBTQ2.

The survey found that, between 2018 and 2019, the same proportion of respondents (49 per cent) of non-LGBTQ2 adults felt “very” or “somewhat” comfortable in those situations.

However, the percentage of people aged 18 to 34 who say they felt comfortable in those situations fell from 53 per cent to 45 per cent.

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In a statement, GLAAD president Sarah Kate Ellis said that the first three years of the report showed “positive momentum” year over year, but that the pendulum has since begun to swing in the opposite direction.

“The younger generation has traditionally been thought of as a beacon of progressive values,” she said.

Ellis believes the results are in part due to the “sharp and quick rise in divisive rhetoric in politics and culture,” which she believes is having a “negative influence on younger Americans.”

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The report also found that the decline in acceptance rates was paired with a significant increase in LGBTQ2 respondents reporting discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation or gender identity.

Ellis says that these trends indicate a rise of “hateful rhetoric” in American culture, and David Rayside agrees.

He’s a professor emeritus of political science at the University of Toronto and the former director of the Mark S. Bonham Centre of Sexual Diversity Studies, and he believes the Trump presidency is partly to blame.

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“We have to think about the Trump Effect [and how it is] legitimizing anti-minority or anti-equality discourse,” Rayside said.

“That’s a factor that would not just affect LGBTQ2 issues but potentially others, too.”

‘The Trump Effect’

In Rayside’s view, Trump’s willingness to speak out against minority groups like the LGBTQ2 community has emboldened American citizens to voice their own discriminatory opinions.

In April, he banned transgender soldiers from the U.S. military, and in May, he announced plans for a new policy which would allow adoption agencies to deny adoption to LGBTQ2 couples on the basis of “religious exemptions.”

Most recently, he denied permission to U.S. embassies to fly the LGBTQ2 flag during the month of June, also known as Pride month.

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“He makes it easier for people to say things that they might have been hesitant to say earlier on,” he said.

It doesn’t help that the Republican Party appears to support Trump’s discriminatory views, according to Rayside.

“It isn’t just Trump on his own,” he said. “It’s also the willingness of the Republican Party to embrace Trump’s approach to these issues.”

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As the Trump Effect is taking hold, so is an increased awareness about gender identity. Rayside says these two things, along with the ease with which information can be spread online, are creating the perfect storm.

“The spread of the internet… means that people who have resisted the move towards recognizing inequity and recognizing the marginalization of particular groups [can] find one another more readily than they did even five years ago,” he said.

What about Canada?

While there’s always the possibility that what happens in the U.S. spills over into Canada, Rayside doesn’t think the Trump Effect will have quite the same impact north of the border.

“I think it does embolden [Canadian people]… I think we saw an element of that in the election of Doug Ford as the premier of Ontario,” Rayside said. “But the pushback in public opinion is much sharper [here] than we’ve seen in the United States.”

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Rayside recalls when the Harper government proposed a ban on the wearing of niqabs by anyone dealing with or working for the federal government prior to the 2015 federal election.

“[Harper] was playing on anti-Muslim sentiment. On one hand, it emboldened people to [do the same].” On the other, Rayside thinks it could have been what cost them the election.

Roza Nozari feels differently. She’s the anti-violence initiatives co-ordinator at The 519, an LGBTQ2 community centre in Toronto’s Village neighbourhood.

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“We are not surprised by the results [of the survey],” she said. “This is absolutely happening in Canada.”

Nozari says LGBTQ2 people continue to experience disproportionately higher rates of violence in Canada, and there are numbers to prove it.

A recent survey by Statistics Canada found that for every 1,000 straight Canadians, 69 reported they had been the victim of either sexual assault, physical assault or robbery.

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That number jumps to 142 for lesbian and gay Canadians and skyrockets to 267 for bisexual Canadians.

Similarly, police-reported hate crimes targeting sexual orientation rose 16 per cent in 2017.

How to promote LGBTQ2 acceptance

Though it may not be as bad as the United States, Canada still has a lot of work to do in terms of becoming a truly accepting country for LGBTQ2 people, advocates say.

For the team at The 519, education and training is crucial.

“Not just if an incident happens and you do a two-hour training, but real education and training with real dialogue and a real intention to change,” said Soofia Mahmood, the centre’s director of strategic communications and executive planning. 

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The 519 offers training on sexual and gender diversity and inclusive policy to businesses of all sizes. Topics range from LGBTQ2 language to systemic discrimination and how to provide inclusive services.

It can be as simple as searching for educational materials online or visiting a local community centre with an LGBTQ2 focus.

“Find out more that challenges your own belief system and then share that, whether that’s with your neighbour or with your child,” said Mahmood.

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“I’m a newcomer here and I have a 13-year-old… I have learned many things through my work here that I go home excitedly and tell my daughter so she can then share that with her friends. And it’s working — now she’s able to call out homophobia.”

Ultimately, though, Mahmood believes change needs to come from the top.

“Leaders have to engage in meaningful dialogue… whether it’s leadership from an organization, a community, a province or a country,” she said.

“For leaders who don’t have awareness of what it means [to be LGBTQ2], I would invite them to come talk to us and we can reflect together. We can share lived experiences and we can make this world a little better for everyone.”

— With files from Colton Praill

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26May

‘I never want to forget them’: Memorial tattoos help people cope with loss, grief – National

by BBG Hub

The passing of a loved one can be utterly devastating. Grief is all-encompassing, and for some, it never really goes away.

Tattoos present a unique way to cope with the grief.

“Memorial tattoos help continue bonds with the deceased,” said Deborah Davidson.

She works as a professor of sociology at York University, and she’s the creator of The Tattoo Project.

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“Tattoos can be understood as a form of public storytelling,” said Davidson. “Stories help us make sense and meaning out of things that happened to us.”

When placed in a spot where other people can see it — as most are — a memorial tattoo is often an intentional conversation-starter.

“People fear their loved one will be forgotten… not by themselves, but by others,” Davidson said.

“[Tattoos] open that dialogue so you can talk about what your tattoo means and remember the person you lost that way.”

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Some memorial tattoos have a beginning and an end date, making it obvious that it represents a life that has come to an end. However, in Davidson’s experience, most memorial tattoos are more inconspicuous.

“The stories associated with lots of these tattoos are not sad stories. People want to remember their loved ones and have happy memories of them,” she said.

The permanence of body tattoos can also have a comforting quality for someone dealing with tragic loss.

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“They’re permanent, so their loved one and their story and their memory will be with you forever,” said Davidson.  “[Tattoos] help incorporate loss into the lives of the bereaved in meaningful ways.”

In a lot of cases, grief is also a permanent fixture in the life of the bereaved.

“There are no five stages of grief,” Davidson said. “A main complaint of people that are grieving is that they’re expected to get over it [after] a certain amount of time, but it doesn’t work that way.”

Eunice Gorman, a professor at King’s University College, agrees. She’s an expert in grief and bereavement.

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“[Grief] affects everybody differently. Most people will manage to kind of bungle their way through grief… but we know that some people really struggle.”

That’s why some people turn to tattoos as a coping mechanism, of which there are many.

“Coping mechanisms are as unique as the people who are grieving,” said Gorman.

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Some people will go to support groups, some will read, some will exercise. Whatever a person chooses, coping mechanisms are crucial to surviving after loss.

“People often get tattoos because it’s a remembrance for other people… It’s a way to link them to the person that they loved,” she said. “For other people, it’s kind of a touchstone. They can look at it or they can touch it and they can be brought back to remembering them.”

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Alyssa Davies from Calgary, Alta.

“My grandpa hadn’t been doing well and was in the hospital for months. During that time, my grandma was so focused on my grandpa getting well that she didn’t take care of herself and ended up unexpectedly passing away first. My grandpa then passed away a few months later… It was a tough year for our family — particularly my mom.

“My grandpa was an avid gardener and had won many gardening awards in Calgary in his retirement. My grandma and I shared a love for poetry and passed along a book of poems by Robert Frost. I got the butterflies to commemorate my grandpa’s love for gardening and as a nod to my grandma, as Robert Frost’s first published poem was My Butterfly.

“I like to think that whenever a butterfly is near or flying by that it’s either of them saying hello — which probably sounds crazy, but it makes me feel good.

“These tattoos were a great way to commemorate two people who had a massive impact on my life when I was younger. I think tattoos are a form of artwork, and for those of us who aren’t as creative with a pen and paper, artwork that allows us to see the people we’ll always love come to life again.

“I got a lot of tattoos when I was younger that I certainly regret now, but this isn’t one of them. It’s so 2000s and it’s faded and it’s the ‘basic’ butterfly tattoo that a million girls probably have but it still makes me smile and it still brings me joy every single time I look at it… Sometimes we forget memories and people, but I never want to forget them.”

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Rob Marshall from Toronto, Ont. 

“I got my first tattoo in 2016, five months after my mom passed away following her two-year battle with ALS. While she was sick, I stumbled across this picture online, teared up, and made it my phone background. Something in the way the mother lion was embracing her child — almost enveloping it — made me think of my mom.

“My mom is the reason for all the kindest, most loving parts of myself. She was a constant source of light and love. So to see her suffer as her ALS progressed was the most difficult emotional experience I’ve ever been through. For over a year, this picture on my phone helped me ground my thoughts.

“When my mind fixated on the terrible images of her fading health and suffering, this image was a shortcut to think of everything she meant to me instead.

“I’d look at it and think of her smile, her hugs, the way she’d snort when she laughed hard enough (and immediately turn red in embarrassment), the way she loved without question, without pause, and with her whole heart. After she passed, I decided to get that comforting image tattooed on my forearm as a way to remember her, and to keep those positive thoughts and feelings at the ready.

“It’s there when I miss her, when I think of those difficult times when she was sick, when I’m having a good day that I wish I could share with her. I carry her with me everywhere, every day, just as I carry those best parts of myself that she instilled in me.”

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Kathy Kenzora from Mississauga, Ont.

“I have a ‘dad’ banner tattoo on the inside of my right wrist… I got it in June 2018 in honour of my dad, Bob Kenzora, who died on March 30, 2018. He died following a long battle with Parkinson’s disease. He was 77 years old.

“My dad had a ‘mother’ banner tattoo on his left forearm that he got in his 20s while working as a lumberjack in British Columbia. To me, it was always a symbol of his strength and his sense of humour. He used to joke that he got it so that his mom wouldn’t be mad at him when he came back to Ontario.

“After he died, the nurses at the hospital gave us some time to say our final goodbyes. It felt impossible to leave him there.

“Before I could go, I felt like I needed another way to remember him, so I took a picture of the tattoo on his arm and promised myself I would get one just like it.

“My dad was my hero and my idol. My tattoo gives me so much joy because it feels like a piece of him will be with me always. I love my tattoo and I know my dad would have loved it too.”

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